A week after meeting Mary, dad has proposed to her and looking to get married ASAP! I have repeatedly advised him that I think he is moving way too fast and to just date her for a little while. I also don't know what marriage will do to all of his financial benefits; social security, Medi-Cal and VA application process.
Just to give you some background on Mary, she is very nice and is only in the assisted living facility because her husband died a year ago and her son does not want her to live alone. She has a lot of energy, is a very positive influence on dad and loves motivating him to get out of bed and go to exercise in the morning or just get out of his room!
With that said, she is also behind getting married quickly and I'm not too sure why. I feel like I have to error on the side of caution because a couple of months ago my dad was talking about getting married to one of the young Filipino care takers at Villa Redondo, which she was in on it too. When the facility found out what was going on they suspended her and later fired her because of a law in California that protects the elderly from being taken advantage of emotionally or financially by care takers. The State ended up getting involved in the case and it was a HUGE mess and I wasn't sure what the true intentions of the care taker were. It was a strange situation and as much as I like Mary, I keep telling them to just date for awhile. There's no need to rush into anything right now. But he doesn't seem to listen to me and I've even gone as far as saying that I will not have anything to do with him if he does marry Mary. So we'll see what happens.
To his family: next time you call, please talk some sense into him. He's been so difficult to talk to and I'm beyond frustrated with him.
Thanks!
